Sunday, April 29, 2007

Anney: A Terrible Mother or Bound by Circumstances?

I cannot stand the fact that Anney is such a bad mother. Yes, I said it. Anney is a horrible mother. In the beginning of the novel, Allison goes to extremes to lay the foundation of the importance of family bonds in the Boatwright family and the depths that she went to just to get a legitimate birth certificate for her daughter. As soon as she married Glen, she becomes so wrapped up in this new husband of hers that she rationalizes everthing and believes every word that Glen says. So while she may see or have an indication of what is going on she does NOTHING to stop Daddy Glen from abusing Bone. Even after Bone ends up at the hospital with a broken tailbone and countless bruising, Anney fails to do anything to change the situation. She fails to save her daughter from this monster. Still, when Ruth tells her what has been going on, Anney still won't believe it and stays with Glen. It is Ruth and the rest of the family who pitches in to rescue Bone by allowing her to stay with them when she does not want to go home. This choice is much like the one Stella had to make in A Streecar Named Desire. Who does she choose-- the sister/daughter whom they have raised and grown up with (I think this can be applied to both stories, since Anney was so young when she had Bone)? It is that kind of competition that allows Glen to dominate both of them and have this power over both Bone and Anney-- the fear of being alone, of doing something wrong and that fear that their family is really screwed up creeps in for Anney. For Bone, she is a child and what can she do? Daddy Glen is an adult and she must have done something wrong to deserve such punishment. Anney continues in this denial as her family falls apart: they are continually more isolated and with Glen being out of work so often, always moving and out of food, which continues the stigma that they are white trash that Anney has tried so hard to banish. This idealism is crippling and both Anney and Glen live in denial because they cannot face what they have done--destroying a little girl and ruined her childhood. Glen blames his behavior (whether is is losing a job or his family relations) on others and then takes his anger out on Bone, any little thing sets him off; like Bone running in the house. Much like the abuse in Dave Pelzer's off four book series A Child Called It. Nothing is good enough for these people and Bone though a smart enough child to stay out of Daddy Glen's way and to try to find something else to help her (like gospel music and church) will not be able to stop the abuse until she can vocalize it and tell someone. Child abusers never stop until they are forced to and Glen is not going to want to lose his emotional outlet.

5 comments:

Jess said...

Jenilyn,
I also hate that Anney is such a terrible mother. I just want to hit her over the head and make her realize that she in no way, shape, or form is she helping her children, nor herself as a result. She is merely putting her children’s lives in danger. I feel that if it weren’t for Anney’s family taking Bone in like they have, as you stated, Bone would be dead already. Now that we have read further in the novel, I also feel that if it were not for Anney’s brothers going and beating Glen to a pulp, Anney never would have realized and moved out of the house. The denial that you write about, would have ultimately in my eyes, done Bone in for good and se eventually would have been beaten to death.

Grace said...

I agree that Anney wasn't doing the best job she could have to protect her children. But at the same time this story is from her daughter's perspective so you can't really know what her mother went through at the hands of Glen behind closed doors. From what I know often women who are beaten act just as children often do and like Bone's did they hide it, and blame themselves.

Nicole said...

I totally agree with you, that Anney is a terrible mother. I do not know how a mother could ever do this to her child. Especially putting her childrens lives in danger, like you mentioned. You would think Anney would want to see her daughters grow up to be successful adults, but the way she is portraying her love to them, it does not seem like she cares. She cares more about Glen, than making her children happy. Which is very upsetting. It's extremely upsetting reading from the child's perspective, becuase you actually read what she was feeling and how she was dealing with the terrible abuse incident.

Kathryn said...

I definitely agree with your point that Anney is a bad mother. If she really loved Bone and Reese the way that she says she does, she would leave Glen in a heartbeat, not just because her brothers beat him up and made her leave him. It should not take an occurance such as this to make Anney finally leave Glen, because she knew of the abuse that was taking place for awhile; since the beginning of the abuse. I don't think you are wrong at all for saying ANney is a bad mother, and I think it is worse that now that Glen is not living with them, Anney does not talk to Bone the way she used to, but still claims that she loves Bone.

MattyB said...

Jenilyn, I don't have much to add since you summed up my feeling about Anney pretty well in your first couple of sentences. You made a really strong comparison between Bone/Anney and Blanche/Stella. I hadn't made the connection and really enjoyed reading this blog. Wish I had something to add, but I don't.